I had my birthday a week ago and finally reached the age where people were so worry about my lovelife over all others things I need to accomplish. Some wished that I’ll finally find the one pretty much soon (which I replied, AMEN broda and sista!), some wished that I’ll be married like the others soon (allright!), and some even talked to me about why am I being too picky or what am I waiting for on this kind of age (say WHAAAT?).
I said, it’s not about being too picky. It’s not about waiting for The Whole Package Prince Charming to come get me. It’s about finding the one you will spend your life with, of course I am being picky, because I am gonna make sure that that one is gonna be the one I can always talk to, I can always relate to, I can always see that we stand on the same level.
That’s why I am so confused if someone try to advise me with “Yauda sih, lo sama itu aja, seagama kan, tunggu apa lagi?”. Well, it’s not that I belittle the religion, I know it’s important to have a life partner with same religion, trust me I learned the hard way. But there is more than just having the same religion. It’s having the similar conscious level or value. Because it will determine how you two are gonna live your life together and how you two put yourself around each other.
I saw many relationships struggle a lot because the differences of conscious level or value. It still could be done, but in my opinion, why am I gonna marry a partner who gives me no better life nor happiness than when I was as a single one?
Talking about lovelife in this kind of age is more than talking about physical looks, romantic stuffs he/she do for you, or ‘love/lust’ feeling you have when you are with him/her. He/she might have the great look, great style, great family background, romantic as hell like all of Nicholas Sparks’s books combined, and you might be infatuated by him/her the minute he/she walk in to your life. But then the minute you two are talking, you find nothing in common, and more than nothing after many meaningless 'kamu uda makan? makan apa?' conversations you take to confirm it. If after many convos all you have to describe him/her are good looking, nice and sweet to you, well goodluck with that, because the look become less and less when you get older, and nice and sweet could be just a mere skin. You must find the core value. And check it whether it compatible to you.
My best friends all told me that I have a super high standard and it will make me hard to find the one. In fact, I thought that I have an unusual core value that makes it hard to find one with similar level. Yes, it's never easy. But will I compromise that? Hhh, I think I'll take my chances for now.
Jadi, kapan nikah?
Well, instead of asking me the famous 'it' question, why don't you wish a very goodluck for me tho? ^^
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